My Thoughts Thursdays: Someone’s Mother

I usually try to avoid anything Kardashian as I find most of the family quite tasteless. Trust me it is hard to avoid them when in college you have two roommates that love to watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians on Netflix, on repeat, but somehow I managed. If you haven’t heard, recently Kim Kardashian posed for the cover of Paper magazine…nude.

The outrage over the fact that she did it has been the talk of the internet the past few days and while I wasn’t planning on sharing my two cents about it, there have been certain things said that I just can’t help, but say something about. Many are shaming the infamous Kardashian because, “she is someone’s mother.” When did being a mother mean that women can’t be sexual? Many will probably say, well you said that women shouldn’t be seen as sexual before. Well, no. I have said in the past very firmly that women shouldn’t be seen as sexual objects.

Most women will deal with body issues at some point in their lives. We are told how we should look nearly daily, and in high school, practically hourly. We are told when we look pretty and when we look disgusting. Looks are considered something of value, and when you become a mother, you become obsolete. In your life, everything should be about your child. How quickly you lose the baby weight, and how poised you should be to show your daughter how to act. Women don’t all fit into one mold, nor should we. After we have kids, we are not just someone’s mother, we are still ourselves. If a woman decides to be sexual, that is still her choice. We, especially as women, don’t need to shame others into the mold, that we ourselves secretly dread.

On a side note, I will say that I do not approve of how Kim went about this. Her entire goal was to get attention as the line on the cover says, “Break the internet.” She wasn’t making a stand for women and was trying to be a sexual object (and oddly enough, seen as merely a big ass). But, it isn’t always about the intent, what is important is the conversation that surrounds the acts. Those conversations are what shape society.


About Danielle Beranek

Life can get away from you when being young, married, and still fairly fresh out of college. Taking on a pet, student loans, going back to school, and soon a new house is enough to leave ones head spinning. For me, life is crazy, but only on the outside.
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